Since the time when Adam realized he was without a mate, thereby experiencing loneliness, many persons have found themselves in a similar state. A careful examination of Scripture reveals a deep concern for the "widows and fatherless," individuals who, in their singleness, might be struggling. Not all singles in our society today are struggling—any more than married people struggle—but all these people have special family needs.
Paul visualized the church as an oasis where all gifts were valuable, a home where all could find fellowship and support. All who belong to Christ, are Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise. (Galatians 3:29) The fellowship of believers in Christ transcends sexual, racial, economic, marital, or social distinctions.
Duties of the Singles Coordinator
The duties of a person when he or she becomes a coordinator of singles ministries in the church will include the following duties.
1. Form a Committee. Find responsible people who will help plan and develop activities and programs. Keep in mind when choosing committee members that the adult singles need to "own" their ministry in order for it to be relevant to their needs. Other important aspects of your ministry will be to brainstorm, develop friendship in the committees, and delegate responsibilities in a way that involves as many individuals as possible in the program.
2. Bible Study. A ministry to single adults must include Bible teaching which may take place in a large or small group situation, or maybe both. Small group Bible studies can meet during Sabbath School and be recognized as a Sabbath School class, or meet as a Home Bible Fellowship, or a midweek meeting at the church. Large group activities might take the form of a monthly Singles Fellowship where Bible study would not be the only item on the agenda.
3. Involve Singles in the Worship Service. Look for ways to help the singles in the church to become part of the worship services and contribute to a spirit of commitment among the members of the church.
4. Plan Entry Events. You will need to help the church plan entry events and build pathways that will attract new members, specifically single members, and nurture their growing faith. A divorce recovery seminar, a single parent workshop, and other seminar packages are available.
5. Attitudes. Help the congregation and its leaders develop a non-judgmental, open and accepting attitude. Focus on how to minister to singles in the situations in which they are found. The question is "What can be done now?" Rather than, "What happened?" or "Why did you do what you did to get yourself into this?"
Adventist Single Adult Ministries (ASAM) is a segment of the North American Division of Family Ministries for the Seventh-day Adventist Church. Our goal is to support and nurture relationships for single adults with each other and with other members of the church family.